Don’t Compete With Him if You Want to be Complete With Him!
Being in a relationship not easy, everyone knows that. What puts a huge strain on a relationship is when your partner begins to feel like you are no longer supporting him, but are suddenly in competition with him. Reading the subtle signs that this is becoming a problem can help you nip this problem before it is too late.
This can be a real problem in relationships between people who are both ambitious and competitive. By the time you notice it, it may have already driven a wedge between you and him. Rori Raye describes “boy energy” as that aggressive approach that women use to achieve great things. This ‘boy energy’ can completely wreck your relationship. It is important to avoid letting this happen by paying attention to the warning signs.
It should be easy to tell if this is a problem for you. He may suddenly shy away from competitive activities, like board games or exercise. If he declines your invitations to participate in competitive activities consistently, you can be sure that there is trouble in paradise.
Despite the natural confidence of a competitive man, it doesn’t take much to throw his game off. There are a lot of ways of doing this, from talking over him to being a sore loser when he wins. If you make him feel as though you are his rival, his sense of place in your life is threatened.
The reason why this is so destructive to an otherwise healthy relationship is that the role you play in his life should be one of love, respect, and acceptance. When he feels that these things are threatened, he begins to doubt the stability of your relationship, and his confidence is challenged. These seeds of doubt can make a relationship unravel.
As soon as you sense that there is a problem, it is imperative that you begin to seek solutions. Rather than asking why he is bent out of shape, you need to begin by asking why you feel a need to compete with him. Is it your own insecurity that is driving your actions? Only when you are truly secure in yourself and your relationship, will you be willing to give the praise and support he desires rather than taking it for yourself.
You can turn things around before they become critical if you just take the time to notice this problem as soon as it begins. As long as you take the time to consider what it would feel like to be in his shoes, you will be able to understand why this is a problem. No one likes to be one-upped, especially by their mate! Next time a competitive situation arises, be encouraging and supportive. Be generous and kind rather than selfish and self-serving. By making his victories your own, your relationship will thrive by being mutually supportive and loving.